Essay: My imaginary family

People is a rich storehouse for a hermit like me with no family within 200 miles.

I really don't miss having a family to speak of — in fact I'm grateful for it most of the time — but I get perverse vicarious delight from reading every word about engagements, weddings, wedding anniversaries and geezer birthdays. Not to mention the Pet of the Week.

Today's is Dixie, a two-year-old beagle-terrier mutt. Somebody slapped a yellow bandana on her for her desperate closeup. Her long pink tongue sticks out, and she's smiling in that doggie way as if she knows how much this matters. The way she's sitting there, her little white paws on a hard floor at the Humane Society, breaks my heart.

On the engagement and wedding pages, I look at all the panicky smiling couples in their fancy clothes, their heads touching, the guy's hand tenderly and tastefully on the girl's waist, the women in complicated upswept hair and lacy headpieces, the guys looking slightly strangled by their unaccustomed tuxes. Stiff little flowers, rosebuds with sprays of cliche baby's breath, seem to interfere with hugging. But everybody's smiling.

Looking at all of them, the Nicoles and Scotts and Caras and Lances and LaCreshas and Fruquwas (that's the guy) and Sarahs and Dereks, I think, yes indeed, there is somebody for everybody.

And then on the next page, there are the anniversaries, names from another era, Harold and Phyllis and Shirley and Kenneth and Gordon and Tom ... and these couples suggest the toll the years take, a whiplash of time from the hopeful naivete of decades before. The couples are thick and wrinkled, bespectacled and silver-haired — and still smiling, thanks, I think, to "cheese." I think they look surprised, and relieved, that they've made it this far. I wonder if they still like each other.

The contrast between the two sections — the young beginners, the weathered survivors " is almost more than I can take before my second cup of tea. It makes me want a drink.

But the best of all is Generations — the photos where somebody whose 15-year-old kid just had a baby in the family tradition lines up with great-grandma, grandma, mom or dad and a tiny papoose, usually in the arms of the oldest relative, little aware of his or her place in history.

Today's People yielded a generations bonanza — six generations.

Unbelievable! Great-great-great grandmother Lucille, 98, holds little Devan, five weeks old. Arranged around the aged granny and thumb-sucking infant are great-great grandmother Norma, great-grandmother Brenda, grandfather James and mom Nicole. I try to calculate how in the hell this could have happened — everybody procreated before the age of 20, I guess, and everybody lived.

What relentless family-making! I'm amazed.

My grandfather was born in 1870 and has been dead since the early 50s. My mother was born in 1910 and didn't get around to giving birth to me until 1949. I come from a long line of extreme late-bloomers, some of whom never actually bloomed.

I, for instance, never had kids myself, and I'm still waiting for the break that will bust open my expected celebrity to snare me a mythical — if truncated — twig on my family tree.

So what I know of my historical family, the people we call ancestors, is filtered murkily through various myths, memories, scars and resentments — fragments of "he said, she said" second- or third-hand accounts at best. Unlike the families in today's Flint Journal, the generations of my kin are largely mysteries.

Jan's book, Night Blind is available at Barnes & Noble in Genesee Valley, UM-Flint Bookstore, East End Books and Music at the Farmers' Market, Pages Bookstore, Little Professor Book Center in Fenton, www.Amazon.com, www.Bn.com and www.iuniverse.com.